Every person is different when it comes to squirting. Some people need firm g-spot stimulation. Others need soft clitoral circling. Some women can even squirt without any direct stimulation to their vulva. Because of this, there are various techniques you can try. You can and should explore various methods with your partner, and of course, listen to whatever they say.

One popular technique involves a combination of clitoral and g-spot stimulation, Jean says. Once your partner is turned on, you then want to shift your focus more to their vulva (if you weren’t already focusing there). Consider using a g-spot wand to apply targeted pressure to her most sensitive internal areas.

“Sex hacker” Kenneth Play previously told Men’s Health his technique for helping his partners squirt, which involves using one hand to hit the clitoris, labia, and g-spot. Once his partner is sufficiently aroused, he inserts his ring and middle finger into her vaginal opening. Using his index and pinky fingers, he presses against the outer labia. He then presses the heel of his hand flush against his partner’s clitoris.

You may think that in order to get your partner to squirt, you need to aggressively thrust with your hand and deliver the most pressure possible. This is not always the case. “Everyone’s body is different and while many enjoy a full spectrum of intensity, these are highly sensitive parts of the body, so they mering away at these nerve-packed zones,” Jean says.

She suggests approaching the squirting process like interval training. “Similar to your HIIT workout, try enacting an interval between time on and time off,” Jean says. “Think of it like an active recovery where you engage in another area, body part, or zone during your time off.”

That said, deciding whether to take a break or not comes down to your partner. You don’t want to cut off stimulation right as she’s on the cusp of squirting. Ask your partner, “Want me to keep doing this or switch it up?”

Do something they really like during that final “push.”

“Once you hear the ‘splash splash’ sound-meaning your partner is really wet-I am telling you now that your partner is capable of squirting; they just have to figure out how to get it out of their body,” Jean says.

Often, women report that they feel like they need to pee right before they squirt, which makes sense, considering squirt does come out of the urethra. This discourages some women from squirting because they fear they’re just to pee. Knowing this is a common sensation can help your partner relax and push through the confusing “peeing” feeling.

Once your partner is about to start squirting, it’s generally advisable to keep doing what you’re doing, Jean explains. “It can sometimes be good to move from internal stimulation to external-your partner can often keep squirting this way,” she says.

You may attempt everything, and your partner doesn’t squirt. This is completely fine and doesn’t mean either of you did anything wrong. Plus, there’s no cleanup involved. And whether or not your partner squirts, remember the importance of aftercare!

There are certain sex acts that have developed a sort of cult following, and squirting is one of them

The term “squirt” was the 25th most-searched term on Pornhub in 2019, according to the porn site’s annual Year in Review statistics. For many men, there’s something undeniably arousing about a person with a vulva being able to expel fluids just like a person with a penis. And squirting often goes hand-in-hand with female orgasm, which is one of the reasons your partner might be into it, too. (Though it’s worth noting that people can squirt without climaxing-more on that to come. Pun not intended.)