According to his profile, he joined 3 weeks ago, I checked the date and it was the date we had a huge argument because he was acting really suspiciously with his phone. I knew something was up.

Please can someone tell me – What the fuck do I do? But he looks after DC in my home while I work, and provides money we really can’t afford to lose.

I’ve had a really horrendous year – I had an abnormal smear this year which required surgery and has really damaged my mental health, this is absolutely the last thing I needed

I actually tried to end things with him earlier this year when things didn’t feel great for me.. but he refused and said he wanted us both to try and fix things instead. To then go and do this?

We have one young DC – we don’t live together at the moment luckily

But he looks after DC in my home while I work, and provides money we really can’t afford to lose.

Its HIS child too.. he will still have to pay for his child OP. please do not accept this as reasonable behaviour in a relationship. honestly he is treating you like dirt.

I know! He’s just been really horrible before when we’ve been arguing, and he’s withheld money and contact for days, it’s caused me huge issues with work.

Get rid. Go through cm. Find your independence and your self worth. Men like this enjoy abusing women, they’re often misogynistic and liars. Don’t waste any more time, there are too many sites out there he could be on

Basically he is a manipulative, abusive shitbag. Dump him (change your locks first if he has a key) and do not let him into your home again under any circumstances. File for child support asap. Might also be wise to see what other benefits you can claim.

And if you can get a payment from him somehow before you tell him it’s over, that would be handy. Maybe say you need money to fix the car or some other shit? Make it sound like its something that benefits him in some way. Even better if it sounds like it is for something you don’t want (as his kind like you to suffer). Think creatively. Worth a try.

Read up on narcissists and their abusive tactics. There are good vloggers such as melanie tonia Evans on the subject (eg: 9 hoover tactics of narcissists). Protect yourself and you’re wee girl. You both deserve to be happy. He only wants to bully and belittle you.

What a creep! Definitely get rid of it! He will have to contribute to your childs expenses and welfare. Your better off having less money than living with this cheating bastard.

Op just let it be for now. I did the same for about 6 months. We still had issues but instead of hoping he didn’t leave or cheat I just didn’t care cause I was setting myself up to escape.

And when I did, I had most things sorted and I was 100 ready and knew I wouldn’t get weak and go back.

I’m not going to cause a large confrontation/argument, mainly because I just don’t care enough, I feel more sickened and disappointed that he wouldn’t let me end the relationship yet he’s been sleeping around (or if he hasn’t yet, it’s not through lack of trying

I was on that site before, keeping a eye out for my ex and the 3 weeks is correct, but you can also see if he has met anyone or had pictures up. Cost ?5 for a month account. Then when you go on it you can see if they are online etc.

He actually owes me money which he’s meant to be paying back this week. I’m going to sit tight until then and just interact with him as little as possible – he will absolutely not be setting foot in my home again. I don’t doubt he’ll stick his heels in and be awful to me about it – but I genuinely can’t stand him in my personal space anymore.

Unfortunately I had a CMS case already open from when DC was tiny and he was being an arse about money – they weren’t successful in collecting any money in our case, grizzly he switched to working as self employed so the amount they said he should pay went down loads -I presume he doesn’t ount. Either way, getting money through CMS is like trying to get blood from a stone in our case.