It helps to read that I am not alone, and helps me find the ability to have grace in this venture. I love my husband so very much, I love the family we have created and that god gave us. I struggle with finding some sort of comfort in knowing this is what god wants for both of us, for our children. Just seems like a long path of hurt, confusion, and so many other trials and tribulations. I do know that this venture has caused me to look back and question a lot about my husbands character. I find myself split two ways… one very grateful for him being the “man” that he has been and continues to be ( I think it’s probably a great chore for him) and the other way is angry … I feel like I have been lied to and swindled out of his own fears and obligations.

I try to imagine how he feels, and how he copes daily with so many different feelings, wants , desires, and with just being a productive member of the society that we live in. It must be so very overwhelming for him. And then I feel like … what about me… what about my feelings as his wife, his friend, his lover, the mother of his children. I am struggling , I am hurt, our sexual relationship has for the most part always been mediocre, and often time not so desirable ( hence my comment on our children being miracles). I find myself wanting to be normal… But really what is normal? I really don’t even know where I am going with this…. I think originally I was searching to find out if anyone out there is aware of the effects of the medicine’s our significant others taking might have on us via transfer of their semen https://www.rksloans.com/title-loans-ma, saliva or blood.

Obviously, MTF take large quantities of estrogen amongst other prescriptions. I am interested in knowing if I might be at risk or increase my risk for any sort of cancers, or other things like bringing on per menopausal symptoms or other unknown hormonal or glandular, endocrine diseases by being exposed to hormones in ones bodily fluids for long periods of time. And even more importantly, can he be at higher risk for cancer and other diseases as well.

This system contains a feedback circuit controlled by a number of glands but particularly the pituitary

First I am sorry your are going through this, it is not easy. As for hormones that is a good question for research but I assume there is a little quantity that might come out in body fluids. I also think of lesbians and again I don’t know if research were done, maybe he can ask the doctor prescribing the hormones. I hope you will soon be able to find a clear solution for your relationship, from what I read it does not sound like you had a happy marriage. I hope you will find a way to feel loved, stay happy and have good sex, think about you and your kids.

So if you are referring to sex, then the chances are that this will change somewhat unless your spouse is prepared to use Viagra or a similar treatment as well. And of course, if his dysphoria is extreme and he has genital reconstruction surgery (GRS) then it’s gone forever. (Literally.)

Missy, one of the consequences of feminising levels of oestrogen is loss of erectile ability

As regards your body absorbing oestrogen from his fluids, well, I have never seen any research on this (I study the condition of transgender) so I can’t give you a reference. My knowledge of physiology, however, suggests the following: there may be some transfer but the quantities will be tiny and in any case, if you are pre-menopause, you already have a female level of oestrogen in your blood. Your own oestrogen is produced by glands in your endocrine system. If your blood had elevated oestrogen from ingestion or transfer, your body would monitor this through the endocrine system and make less of its own to maintain the balance. Furthermore, in a healthy heterosexual relationship between a man and a woman, a fair bit of testosterone (much more than any oestrogen that would be similarly transferred in the case of an MtF transgender making love to a woman) is deposited in various delicate parts of the woman’s body and no research, that I am aware of, has ever suggested that women are at risk of male-elevated conditions like thrombosis because of having a lot of sex!